Decision Making Skills and Their Development: Critical Tool for Career Success

July 6, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

I had thought about this topic hard and long and was ready to write, but after writing the title of this article, I got to asking myself, What exactly is ‘decision making skills’? Well, according to a rather dry, scientific definition one could say it’s the choosing between alternative courses of action. It is a process that involves establishing objectives, gathering relevant information, identifying alternatives, setting criteria for the decision, and selecting the best option. But those last few words have quickly become troublesome to me: “selecting the best option.”

Hmmm, OK, here’s the rub. The method mentioned above is very similar to that which I used one time (key word here, “one”) in making a “career decision;” well, kind of. I was working on my undergrad degree while supporting myself with a decent paying job, but I decided that I wanted to work from home so I could apply the forty-hours-a-month saved on drive time to my studies. So here’s what happened.

I found a job where I could work from home managing a high-end startup’s data base, for I used to work in the computer field and had the experience. So I sat down and made out a pros / cons list. There were roughly thirty-six pros and six cons. I knew my objectives, had gathered relevant information, identified alternatives, made out my list and came up with an answer which according to the above method seemed clear cut and obvious. So I quit my job and took the new job according to this, shall we say, scientific decision making process.

But there was one problem.

Even though all the data and analysis pointed to the answer stated above, something in my gut told me “Don’t take the job.” Was my gut right? Should I scrap all the “scientific” method? We’ll see shortly how this intuitive or gut instinct plays out in decision making on a small and large scale.

After quitting my job, attempting for weeks to get set up at home with office equipment from the new company, I realized that it wasn’t going to work. My boss, or the owner of this startup, turned out to be a flake. I ultimately ended up going to small claims court with three other potential new employees only to have the startup owner counter sue us by taking us to superior court.

My attorney advised me to just drop the case, for even if I won (which could end up costing thousands more) the chance of my ever collecting the money was slim. So I ended up being out some $5000 in lost salary, lost time, and a lost job. I eventually got my old job back, but my using this more academic-type or technical decision-making process turned out to be tremendously costly.

Moral of the story? Now I listen to my gut all the time, and it has served me tremendously without fail.

So you thought you were going to come here and learn some specific, academically rigerious methodical skills that would aid you in your decision making? Well, I can give you some help there, for it does take a certain level of discipline, critical thinking, and thorough analysis to get to the point where you use your gut, but at the core, at the foundation is the critical need to develop one’s intuitive understanding to make key decisions.

But the bottom line is that after you’ve learned how to look at what’s out there, who to trust and what to trust in your research (part of the critical thinking that is more cold, hard, academic or scientific), ultimately you are going to be the most successful in skills competencies or competency skills (being effective) when using intuition or gut instinct.

Not sure? Here’s a few examples for you.

Donald Trump speaks of going with his “gut instinct.” At one point, after he had lost millions, he was feeling quite low and had no desire to go out. He received a call that there was a party in New York City close to where he lived at the time and the caller had invited Trump. The caller also mentioned that in all likelihood there was going to be several bankers in attendance. When your business is not doing well, you end up owing a lot of money, and it’s usually banks who are calling to collect on outstanding loans, which Trump had several of.

He initially thought that going to the party would be the worst thing he could do. Even when things were going well, he did not attend parties frequently nor see a need to. And considering that he felt down, not in a party mood, it was raining and he had no driver so he’d have to walk, and that there would be bankers in attendance who he probably owed money to, why go? But amazingly enough, a strong gut feeling told him he should. Trump frequently relies on his gut and it hadn’t let him down yet, so he went.

Upon arriving at the party, he actually began to feel better. He sat down and talked to people, and before he knew it he was lost in conversation. At one point, he realized that the person sitting next to him was someone he knew, infamously. It was not only a banker but one whom he hated vehemently and had said many bad things about publicly. But what came next was the most unexpected thing. They began to hit it off amongst the barbs being shot back and forth, and ultimately it was this banker who helped him most in getting him back up on his feet financially.

This is certainly not something that could have been planned for or an event that could have come about using any type of formal or academic decision theory. And I can tell you that I have used this “gut instinct” or intuition for decisions large and small, and it has rarely failed me and has certainly produced greater results than using hard decision theory. Consider that some of the greatest minds have used scientific decision theory to great failure and you’ll see great truth to my statement.

But here we are not talking about leading a company or a country. We are talking about assessing skills or decision making skills to aid you in personal choice, specifically here career choice. But after you’ve made that career decision using your gut instinct or intuitive understanding, you might want to continue to use it on the job. Case in point:

There is a gentleman by the name of Mohamed A. El-Erian, co-CEO and co-CIO of PIMCO, one of the largest investment management companies in the world. He formerly served as president and CEO of Harvard Management Company, a firm that manages the university’s $35 billion endowment. Nice resume, huh. But I mention him for a reason.

He puts great stock in the intuitive or gut instinct.

In his book, When Markets Collide, El-Erain makes a revealing statement: “I will uncover many of the understandable reasons why otherwise rational and well-informed investor can be late in recognizing important turning points and be prone to mistakes” (2). His point being that here’s some highly intelligent individuals who have had their scientific decision making models fail them. There are always things that happen that can’t be foreseen.

Even Stephen Hawking, our modern-day Einstein, says that no theory is absolute, or no theory can be proven absolutely true because we just don’t know enough. We have limits in the extreme when it comes to knowing all or looking into the future, I hope you know. But back to my point.

With the global market changing so much, more countries coming on board as they move out of communism, this has created the new or unexpected or what El-Erain labels “noise.” The point he makes is that this noise or newness should not be simply dismissed or ignored. Another skill for those looking to enhance skills competency or competency skills is to keep an open mind to new idea and to be tolerant of the same. Those of the greatest minds remain nimble in their thinking allowing for creative new possibilities. This being how Einstein through his theory of relativity was able to take established thinking that had been accepted for decades and dispense with it, even though it was that of his hero and mentor Sir Isaac Newton.

What often happens while attempting to make decisions is that one will or can never know enough to make a decision based solely on existing knowledge or data. And this often results in paralysis of analysis where the individual gets so bogged down in needing to know for sure that he does nothing at all. But our friend El-Erain has something to say about this.

There are those who develop instinct, gut feeling, or intuitive understanding , and it is these people, the Bill Gates, Donald Trumps, and Edward Cowen’s of the world who know of its great worth. Edward Cowen you say?

El-Erain discovered early in his career not to ignore “noise” and that he should “ask whether there are signals within the noise,” meaning, open your mind and don’t block out the new or unknown to discover the answer. As a young analyst, he met a man named Edward Cowen who taught him the lesson above. El-Erain mentioned that Edward’s “instincts were so sharp that they more than complemented . . . his rigorous training in economics and a command of finance mathematics.” Yes, his instincts were equally important to that of his knowledge, a critical point.

El-Erain continues: “Indeed, he illustrated back then what work, particularly in behavioral finance and neuroscience, has confirmed: The importance of instincts, especially during periods of market stress.”

Those who excel and exceed the majority, or who exceed most in their competence skills, certainly do their homework, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty must go where science, theory, and math cannot: the intuitive gut instinct.

This by far is one of your most important decision making skills in not only finding the right career but making the best and most accurate decisions within that career, especially in times of stress when everyone else is looking to the known while you look with acceptance and understanding to the unknown and unfamiliar to discover your answer. And in developing this skill you will be one of the few, the sought after.

Here’s to your success.

Learning to Think Like Da Vinci Will Aid You in Your Career and Life

June 25, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

In the History Channel’s Da Vinci and the Code, the code has nothing to do with Dan Brown’s work but refers instead to Da Vinci’s work ethic, curiosity, and, most importantly, the discipline needed to keep working and moving forward, even through tumultuous times–in 15 th century Italy life was little valued, especially if you were of the working class.

Today, most know of Da Vinci as a painter, but he was much more than that.

Da Vinci was a mathematician, engineer, inventor, anatomist, painter, sculptor, architect, botanist, musician, and writer. Many of his ideas were considerably ahead of their time. He envisioned a helicopter, a tank, solar power, a calculator, and outlined a rudimentary theory of plate tectonics. His ideas were so advanced that most could only be left to linger in theory. However, some of his inventions were used in the 15th century, such as a machine for testing tensile strength wire. As a scientist, he advanced knowledge in the fields of anatomy, civil engineering, optics, and hydrodynamics.

But is da Vinci an exception who can’t be touched? What really made him so unique? Where does the secret lie?

In this day n age of the specialist, we are not advised to be a Renaissance man or woman. We are told not to be a Jack- or Jane-of-all-trades. But if we listen to the popular notion there’s a good chance we are doing something really wrong. According to Napoleon Hill, we need to be careful who tells us what:

“Who said it could not be done? And what great victories has he to his credit which qualify him to judge others accurately?”

Hill also said of failure:

“Every failure is a blessing in disguise, providing it teaches some needed lesson one could not have learned without it. Most so-called failures are only temporary defeats.”

Da Vinci would agree, for he did not see failure as something to stop him or even slow him down.

Da Vinci’s extreme contributions to many fields only rival that of the great Michelangelo. Ironically, it was it was a fierce competition with Michelangelo at the end of da Vinci’s life that nearly put him out of commission. But it was his belief in himself, in his vision, that kept him going.

“Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind.” da Vinci

Was da Vinci the great man he was, the great discoverer, the great Renaissance man, merely because he was born that way? Or did he have to earn it?

“I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but they whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves their conduct, will pursue their principles unto death.” da Vinci

Did da Vinci make discoveries or was he made by them? How much of his effort, his desire, pealed back information and knowledge that was there merely waiting to be discovered? How many of his discoveries were made simply through unrelenting desire to learn, to see the truth, to uncover that which was already there?

But a more important question is, can you do the same? To what degree?

But before we can attempt to answer that question, let’s get the word “discovery” clearly defined in our mind’s eye.

Discovery: the act of revealing; disclosure.

It doesn’t say the act of making something from nothing but to “reveal,” to “disclose” that which already exists. As in radio waves being merely revealed not invented or put there. As in the laws of gravity being revealed not imagined and then placed by man for discovery.

What can you discover? How do you do it? Let’s ask da Vinci.

“All our knowledge has its origins in our perceptions.” da Vinci

But what is “perception”?

Perception: mental grasp of objects, qualities, etc. by means of the senses; awareness; comprehension. The understanding, knowledge, etc. gotten by perceiving.

Da Vinci was the great envisioner he was because he perceived and conceived. He studied birds and how their wings moved in order to fly, and he envisioned man doing the same. He looked at fish swimming in water and envisioned man doing the same or at least functioning under water. He envisioned the human body and enquired and explored.

So the big question of the day is, what da Vinci-ing have you done lately?

But is all that work worth it? What’s your motivation? Should you simply do so much without adequate cause? Here’s what da Vinci has to say.

“A day well-spent brings happy sleep, so a life well-spent brings happy death.” da Vinci

He was certainly a man of action. Much action . . . action . . . action . . .

“I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.” Da Vinci

It is a universal principle that effort given is reward received. Only those who sweat (genius is 99% perspiration, 1% inspiration) imbibe of the great knowledge merely waiting to be reviled to the deserving few. Great insight is not unique in that it lies in wait for a “special person.” All are privy to its gain. But to gain one must study, learn, observe, and discipline the mind and condition the soul for greatness. For great knowledge lies in wait for those of great desire, character, and faith in the finding.

How does this apply today to your career and life?

Consider that many “experts” say that you’ll have three to five career changes over your working life-time; some say as many as ten career changes. Today not only do jobs, careers, and businesses come and go but entire economic sectors. Are you going to go back to school every career change for four years to update your skills? Do you understand that any educational institution is the tip of the ice burg that education is not institutional but individual?

Now, more than ever before, in this age of turbulence (Read Allen Greenspan’s Age of Turbulence) economic change is occurring more and more rapidly, the innate creative destruction of capitalism is moving faster and faster.

In this regard, you need to be an entrepreneur, a company of one, regardless of whether or not you desire to own a business, for job stability or security (if there ever was such a thing) is a thing of the past. America no longer stands alone without competition. This is not post WWII 60s / 70s where America was the only first-world country still standing. You must become a polymath and learn again and again new skills, attitudes, and knowledge to gain a toe-hold on not only career stability but success. So get to DaVinci-ing.

Here’s to your success.

Want to Excel in Career and Life? Memory: Learn How to Work It

June 8, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

“Memory is the mother of all wisdom” Aeschylus, founder of Greek tragedy.

You’ve probably heard the hype made by companies promising an amazing’ memory: learn how to increase your memory ten fold; never forget another name again; weeks, months, years later recall at will all that you’ve seen; on and on the promises go. But unless you have a brain transplant, you’re really only as good as the software you’ve been given. Meaning, there are no miracles. There are techniques that can improve memory, but the key, the secret is in the individual’s increased concentration because of great desire and passion for what one is learning combined with just plain old hard work. If you have a great need and interest or motivation to remember, your chance of doing so increases considerably over those with a lukewarm interest. Few memory courses will aid you in retaining, processing, and recalling knowledge that you consider irrelevant and pointless. As I said above, passion and plain old hard work, so let’s get into it.

“The true art of memory is the art of attention” Samuel Johnson.

Any great project requires a good memory. The better the memory the smoother the flow of intake, process, retain, and recall. Want to get a job done right? Pass a test with flying colors? Memory, learn how to work it. And don’t worry too much about forgetting. If you do, that lack of faith may just encourage such a thing. But for the faithful, they believe that there just may be no such thing as forgetting.

“The existence of forgetting has never been proved: We only know that some things don’t come to mind when we want them” Friedrich Nietzsche.

There are a lot of things that can certainly inhibit memory: fatigue, hunger, poor diet, anger, depression, and so on. But there’s proof that those who use their minds often and for a long time, as in well into one’s life, there’s even been evidence that memory can continue to stay strong and healthy. But before we go any further, let’s take a look at the two sides of memory.

First, you need to understand that there is short-term and long-term memory. The key is getting the stuff in short-term into long-term. Now, once you get it there in order to keep it there, once again, requires work. Remember the old saying, use it or loose it? Well, you certainly need to work to get it in there, but in order to keep it there-long term-you need to work at that too with regular practice.

So what’s the work involved? What can you do to enhance your memory? Let’s get into it.

1. Take it easy and slow down. You need to be calm and focused, better yet, in the zone. Turn off the TV, cut the conversations, lock the door, put out the cat, tell the girlfriend you’ll see her later. Get to focusing and get to work. And remember, as my little Mikie says to me whenever he’s losing, “Daddy, it’s not a race.” When I’m working, or concentrating on what I love to do, my focus is so great that I can work downstairs blocking out the television and multiple conversations. Not the best environment for working the memory, like I said above, but with passion and desire, your focus or ability to use memory is enhanced considerably.And over the years I have almost exclusively worked without distraction in building up my ‘focus’ ability. To cite another example, I remember years ago blasting my new Led Zeppelin DVD while reading The Universe is a Green Dragon: A Cosmic Creation Story by Brian Swimme, PhD. Through it all, I was not only able to pick up on what I was reading, but remembered the main points well enough after that one reading to teach it the next day in class. I was filling for a week for an ailing colleague. And don’t go thinking I have a photographic memory. No, that’s my colleague who I stood in for. I’ve acquired my ability to remember better than most simply through work.

2. But you say you’re still distracted? Sure, sounds great, Jeff. Just get to work. Easier said than done. I’ve got bills to pay, an interview coming up, the Lakers will be taking on the Celtics in just under three hours (reason for my three hour time limit on this work session), and so the distractions go. Maybe, just maybe, you can’t do it now. You’ve got to get rid of that distraction or two or three before you could even think about concentrating enough to get to the task at hand. OK, go take care of it. But if you have to deal with your scheduled work session, what are you going do? I suggest writing out everything that is blocking you until you’ve exhausted the distraction(s). Focus on what’s distracting you and then once that is out of the way or as much as you can get it out of the way get to work. It’s a technique I have my students and clients use. Write, write, write, until the distractions are all out on paper (good place to put stuff that’s bugging you; you can get back to it later since you’ve recorded it) and then get to the task at hand. Now all this is not to help you to remember things better but to get things out of the way that will inhibit you from doing so.

3. Wa-wa-wa-wandering on and on, here to there, to and fro, and beyond. In one survey, college students were asked what they were thinking eight random times a day. Some said they weren’t thinking about what they were doing 30% of the time. Some were “elsewhere” 80 to 90% of the time. I gave a final one semester and about ten minutes before it began a dozen or so students were mulling about. I asked them if they remembered to bring their blue composition books. Only one out of a dozen students had brought it, but he made an interesting point when he said, “Gee professor, you told us ten times to bring one.” So this is certainly an acquired skill. Work at focusing on focusing. One of the best ways to do this is to, once again, write. Because when you’re writing, as fingers press keyboard or pen / pencil marks the page, it’s difficult to do anything else. Well, you can do other things, but the results of your writing will be poor. In order to do the job well, you’ll have to focus, focus, focus, focus. So get to it.

4. But what should I focus on? Good question. As Einstein said, why commit something to memory if you can look it up? That’s right, don’t put junk in there you don’t need. In college, if you read everything, you’d never pass. Huh? Yes, I remember, especially senior year and in graduate school, I tried to do ALL the reading. Not smart. One class alone was over one-hundred pages a week. What about the other four or five classes? Forget it. There was no way I was going to read it all, never mind remember everything I read. So we have to go to our critical thinking skills here to figure out how to pare it down.

This will take another paragraph; hang in there. I use the gear box analogy to explain this technique. First and foremost, you have to know what you’re looking for, what’s important, what’s required. Work from the question(s) to the answer(s). Why am I reading? What’s the answer I’m looking for? Where is it? In most cases, the main point is what you’re looking for. Where is it? In the introduction and / or conclusion. Or in a smaller sense in the topic sentence of each paragraph. Often there’s a lot of filler if you know what you’re looking for, so here you’re in fourth or fifth gear, skimming (over the years I’ve learned to be ruthless in skimming the unessential–it’s the only way to survive and thrive; sorry authors). Shifting speeds while reading is a key to memory-cut out the unnecessary. Get to the point. Gloss over introductory material, stories, examples, and get to the main point. Look for key words: “critical” “vital” “imperative.” Or some authors will tell you outright, “Here’s the main point.” Personally, my favorite. When I’m teaching I tell my students three times when I have something important to say, “This is important. This is important. This is important. Hey, did I tell you this is important?” You get the idea.

OK, now you have got to keep it-the stuff you’ve begun to memorize. How’s that done? Here, check it out.

1. Study it over and over and over again. Thought I had an easy answer for ya? Nope. One way of keeping it in your head is by writing books and articles. What? That’s right. Why do you think I write so much? (seven books, over 300 articles, dozens of poems) I want to know what I’m talking about in regards to what I’m teaching, coaching, and speaking, so I write, and write, and write, and write. Best way to learn it and retain it. Other ways. Well, first you have to read. But if you’re studying a particular topic or issue, don’t just read one book or article. Read several, many from different perspectives and styles. Maybe at first you don’t get it, but after a second or third author it makes sense because it’s said in just the right way or something that had been glossed over is presented in greater detail and then Bingo! You get it. Also, annotate. Get involved with the text. I never read without a pen and or pencil. I am always writing in the margins, summarizing, critiquing, questioning, agreeing, disagreeing. By being fully engaged using as many techniques and as many senses as possible and coming from as many angles as you can, the better the chance that you’ll not only get what you’re reading but you’ll retain it.

2. Learn it too much. Just because you get it doesn’t mean you know it. The best way to know if you’ve really got something is by trying to explain what you’ve learned to someone. And if you know it that well, you’ve really worked your memory by reading, taking notes, annotating, reading various authors on the same subject-the learn-too-much technique. It’s easy while sitting quietly reading and or writing to believe you know it. But the real test is can you explain it to someone else so that they understand and get it? Teaching is the best way to test whether or not you’ve got it. In one semester-long seminar in which a group of teachers got together every other Saturday to learn how to teach, we were told time and again, the closer we can get our students to actually teaching the greater the chance that they would take the knowledge deep and truly understand it and retain it. Worst thing you can do is just listen to someone and expect to get it and retain it. Next is simply by reading. But best of all is explaining verbally without a net (book, notes, video) what you know. Doing this work is like lifting heavy weights. It will strengthen your memory. If you just life five pound weights all your life you’ll never build muscle. Same thing goes for brain matter. Work it, sister.

3. Test yourself. So you think you really know it? Probably not. Ask yourself questions, definitions, key terms, points, and so on. Do you really know it? This is how I developed my vocabulary. I used to write down words that I saw over and over but didn’t know the meanings to. So I’d fill up a page with words and their definitions. And over a period of days or weeks, however long it took, I’d quiz myself hiding the definitions until I got them all. When I was done I’d tear up the page and start over. Same with basketball free throws. I’d shoot one-hundred free throws until I hit eighty percent. If I got to a point where I wasn’t going to be able to get 80 percent, I’d start over. Did I become a good shooter? You bet. Did the same thing with shoot arounds. Different shots from here and there and here and there. I’d shoot for a particular percentage and keep going until I hit it, passed out, or my mom called me in for dinner. What did I say at the beginning of the article? What did I say? What did I say? Oh, yeah: Work. There you have it.

4. Associate, connect, and personalize. Today, I rarely if ever read or study something that isn’t related to personal interest: spirituality, history, success, business, and so on. I’m always trying to connect personal interest to what I’m learning, studying, trying to remember and retain. If you want it, desire it with passion, much greater chance it will stick and stay. If you can connect and associate to what you’re trying to learn, of course there’s a much greater chance you’ll retain it and keep it in a safe place for keeping. There are those times you may not be on fire about what you’re working with, but if there is motivation, self-motivation there is greater memorization.

5. Connect it to something that will help it stick. You can use acronyms FACE (notes between the lines) and Every Good Boy Does Fine (notes on the lines) to retain the notes of the Treble Clef. Columbus sailed the ocean blue in 1492. It doesn’t work all the time, but it’s helpful using mnemonic or memory aiding devices when the occasion warrants it. But most of the time it’s just going back over and again until you have got it good and solid, and then reviewing occasionally so it doesn’t slip away.

6. You can picture it, draw it, speak it, sing it, map it, imagine it in nature, or express it physically. In a previous article, I spoke of the eight intelligences: logic / math, linguistic, inter-personal, intra-personal, naturalistic, kinesthetic, musical, spatial. I used to remember my stand up act (yes, professional comic for five years) by first writing and then speaking it into a tape player to get the natural rhythm of language as well as to retain the routine in my memory. Some have to speak it to themselves or others to, first, see it, think it out, and then to retain. Others have to draw, map, express it physically, whatever it takes to keep it in your head. I had one student who told me he couldn’t write in his journal. I asked, why? He said because he needs to draw as well. My five-year-old remembers colors, shapes, and numbers by singing. By all means, whatever it takes, do it.

Well, that’s not all there is to memory, memorizing, and retaining. But it’s a good start. Personally, I have used a majority of the methods of memory improvement mentioned here. And because of the practice, I have improved my memory considerably. My ability to focus (key word here) on key questions and to obtain the answers has been remarkable. I don’t say this to brag, but to impress upon you the worth of the above techniques.

For example, in recent months I gave a talk that took me just a few hours to prepare from scratch. I was told I would have thirty minutes to speak as keynote speaker. What I did initially was read several articles on material related to the main point of the talk, more than I needed to (over prepare or “learn it too much”). I took one of the articles and generally used several main points from it to build my outline around and circled those points. I also jotted down some notes and a larger overall outline to complete the talk.

That’s it. I didn’t memorize anything nor did I practice the talk even once. Now, keep in mind this comes after much practice and work, work, work, work. But if you do the work, you can and should be able to reach this point in the process. When I first began speaking, I was terrible, but after much, much, much practice I have achieved relative ease in not only putting together a talk but in presenting it. And no, I was not that familiar with the material, even. Meaning, I am by no stretch of the imagination an expert in what I was going to talk about.

Now, another technique I used during the talk was that of a reliance on the intuitive or sixth sense, meaning, I allowed the talk to come to me. This is the reason I didn’t memorize anything nor did I desire to practice, for I wanted the talk to flow to be organic and natural. I was allowing my trained and trusting memory to do the work. Hell, I’d worked hard enough training it, it should cooperate.

As I spoke, a miraculous thing occurred. Yes, the talk came to me. At several points impromptu, spur of the moment points came as I spoke. And amazingly enough as I finished these points, I looked down at the outline (the article I had circled key points from) and noticed the next point fell right in line with what I had been saying.

Now, I’m not telling you this to encourage you to do the same-for this is for advanced speakers only-but to drive home my point that one can improve his memory with techniques and a little bit of faith. I hope this has been of help to you in all your memory requiring endeavors.

Here’s to your success.

Choosing a New Career: Why a Career Coach is Your Best Option

June 1, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

If you’ve been out of high school for some time, I’d like you to think back to that time. For those who’ve graduated more recently, not as challenging a task, of course. Nevertheless, in all likelihood, you are probably like most in that you didn’t receive much help in matching a career with personal interests. Most may not even remember going to a career guidance counselor or getting much career counseling at all. And this is one of the major downfalls to our educational system.

Now this is not an education reform article, but rather a focus on career and, more specifically, career change. But in choosing a career or choosing a new career, in most cases the person has not had the extensive prelim work done to ensure the best career to client match. Rarely has the person seeking a career or career change been asked the proper questions letting existing personal knowledge and understanding do the talking. Usually a counselor, adviser, or consultant will use his or her knowledge and experience to basically tell the person where he needs to be.

It’s kind of like those career placement tests that tell you, you should be a social worker while inside you’ve been dreaming for years of being a movie director. And what often happens is that in our youth we are swayed by those we perceive to be “more experienced,” only to find out five or ten years down the road after developing a greater sense of self that we should have gone with our original desire in the first place and spend years getting back to where we should have been from the start.

But there are other distractions. Unfortunately, the majority of people get waylaid by exclusive focus on money, prestige, satisfying parental desires, and so forth. It takes a brave and dedicated individual to follow her true desires, to take an honest, hard, cold look in the mirror to discover best how to use her abilities, talents, and gifts. There has even been many a successful person who in the midst of great success feels empty and desires change all because of being more true to the ideals of others or the general ideals perpetuated by society.

The cause? Not enough work on discovering the many tangibles and intangibles of self that will aid the individual in not only being successful monetarily but to discover fulfillment and joy emotionally and spiritually even.

So how is this done?

Well, few know because even though it is that which should be done early and often it’s usually not until years later-five to ten years, or in some cases even more-before the money, prestige and keeping parents happy can no longer hold one back from a dire need to fulfill dreams.

In actuality, it’s a rather straight forward process, and I am often surprised to discover the number of intelligent, well-educated individuals who’ve never discovered their sole purpose. And if you don’t think you have one, think again.

Of course for many there are those immature desires. I can remember desiring to be a basketball or sports star and then a famous actor, but they didn’t happen. And it’s not that I couldn’t have excelled at either, for I was always one of the best on the court and my ability to entertain was a strength too (as a matter of fact, I performed for over five years doing standup in Boston and Los Angeles). However, I knew that my real calling in life lie elsewhere. And when I found it, it was like coming home. It will be the same for you. You may not recognize it right away or feel like home right away, but with the proper prompting and work and encouragement it eventually will.

So what needs to be done to discover that career that life’s calling that’s been there from the beginning? Because the process is rather involved, I will only give a brief summary here.

First, you must look at all important areas of your life. Some examples are health, family, physical environment, money, career, friends and family, romance / significant other, fun and recreation. If you don’t look at your life as a whole in deciding career, you will more than likely career change and career transition until the cows come home.

But there’s more.

Now you must research your talents, abilities, gifts to determine where and how you will make your money. You will not know specifically up front, but that’s OK. As the successful say, shoot and then aim. You will have a general understanding of where you’ll be going but only by following the path on a daily, monthly, yearly bases, even, will a specific understanding of ultimate achievement come to fruition or reveal itself. There is no other way.

Next, you must look at character. We all have character flaws that need to be addressed. Remember that success can come because of your talents and gifts, but just look at the news headlines of the many mighty successful who have fallen and fallen hard and you’ll see why character is critical. As a matter of fact, no amount of talent, ability, knowledge, or gifts can compensate for the self-sabotaging of poor character.

Finally, you must study and know inside and out all the critical success principles: how to work well with others, tolerance of others and ideas, creativity, honor and self-accountability, self-control, succeeding through failure, and so on. Without a thorough understanding here, you are limited . . . in the extreme.

Well, I’m excited. I hope you are too. I always get excited or passionate about what I love. You will too. We all need a passion career. Let me help you build yours.

Here’s to your success.

Critical, Creative, Intuitive Thinking: All You’ll Ever Need in Life

May 24, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

Looking to impress that special someone?

Need to build a new cabinet under the kitchen sink?

Need to make a career change?

It’s a bedtime story you need?

Have to make an important political decision?

Got an exam you’ve got to pass?

On and on and on it goes. All begins in thought. Everything under the sun began as an imagined reality that eventually came to fruition. Yes, even the sun, the moon and the earth . . . and then some. But what is most sad of all is that critical / creative / intuitive thinking-the most important tool you’ll ever need-is left on the back burner and little touched during one’s formative education years. Most of the time it’s memorize, regurgitate, and purge. Yes, purge-intentionally or through lack of use. Education often overlooks the most important skills we can learn to focus almost exclusively on content. It’s like an artist knowing color, shape, and form but not having the heart and vision to do anything more than copy what she sees.

How sad.

But there’s hope.

Let’s begin that hope by focusing on critical thinking first. What is it? When I told a friend of mine that I teach critical thinking, he asked, “What’s that?” I told him, “I teach people how to think.” He laughed, “What’s there to thinking?” A lot, actually, much more than most believe-a testament to our educational system’s lack. But that’s not the focus of this article. Let’s get into the thinking, shall we?

Critical Thinking: Three Part Model

Reasoning: Foundation of Critical Thinking

Critical thinking is technically defined as the ability to come to a conclusion based on one or more arguments. Here arguments are not Jerry Springer Show, chair over the head smack downs, but rather a discussion: “The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress” Joseph Joubert.

Arguments typically persuade (persuasion, argument’s cousin) with good, clear reasoning. They are sound logically and the evidence that supports them is reasonable, and in most cases, good arguments have evidence that is more reasonable than those that support other, lesser arguments. For example, if I told you that all conspiracy theories are true because Dr. Thompson of Quack University said so, you would know my evidence is not sound or reasonable. One, because making an absolute statement (as in “always” “never” “all”) is often incorrect. Very little is always or never true. And you would know that I’m making a generalization based on limited support. We’ve also got a hasty conclusion here (picking one conclusion when others are possible). I would probably need to bring in other experts to concur as well as some research and data to solidify my argument.

Assumptions:

Often these are lying underneath the argument going unnoticed and unmentioned. For example, if someone says “Every parent needs to be responsible for their child’s education,” how many would pick up on the fact that this person is conservative? If someone states that “Nuclear energy is not a viable source of alternative energy,” how many would pick up on the fact that this person has come forward because there are plans in the near future to build a nuclear reactor in his back yard. And so on. In arguments I teach that there are two levels of thought: one, the one you are arguing on, and two, the counter argument or refutation that looks to take down or invalidate your argument.

Logical Fallacies:

These are some of the most common and pernicious aspects of arguments. These are basically tricks or misdirection in thinking, getting people off the topic or issue at hand to distract attention elsewhere. These happen unintentionally but intentionally as well, for there are those who don’t have a sound argument and try to get you not to notice by distraction. Now, a few of the more popular fallacies:

Ad hominem: a personal attack. During Clinton’s campaign, many attempted to attack his character not his track record as a two-term governor of Arkansas-where he had very solid political record.

Red herring: or getting someone off the trail by distracting with an unrelated issue. For example, “I’m going to grade this test on a curve because it creates a better relationship between student and teacher.” Wrong! The issue at hand here is not “student / teacher relations” but rather the student’s education.

Either or thinking: “Either you’re for our troops in Iraq or you’re not.” Often this is to get people to kowtow to one’s desires. It is lazy or abusive thinking. There are often grey areas that which people who use this fallacy don’t want to deal with.

There are many more fallacies, but I think you get the point.

There’s quite a bit more to critical thinking than I can talk about in this one article, but there are a few other points that need to be addressed before we can move on. First, a good critical thinker admits that she doesn’t know. As I state to my students and clients “We are all equal in our infinite ignorance.” What we don’t know is quite a bit more than we’ll ever know. Not sure about this? I tell my students that if they think they know a lot, go into any large library, stand in the middle of the middle floor and regurgitate on cue every word in every volume. OK, begin. How far did you get? There, I told you so.

That’s why with complex issues, like health reform, illegal immigration, and global warming, you may want to take considerable time before you arrive at a solid argument. Personally, regarding illegal immigration it took me several years of researching, listening to immigration stories from those who have been there, writing several articles and observing the responses before I reached a well-thought out conclusion as to the main cause for this issue being an emotional hot-button. And I discovered that it is not based in fact but rather emotional reaction to race.

And there’s another point to consider: emotion. When we deal with arguments emotion is not only frequently attached but hard-coded embedded. Often it breaks down to an emotional sword fight (“Hey, that’s MY’ argument you’re dis-ing here!”) more than a logical one. To argue best, one must work at detaching from one’s emotions. Certainly easier said than done, for I’ve certainly failed on occasion even being quite aware of this foible, but it needs to be mastered to argue from a solid position. No one’s perfect, but we’re not looking for perfection, remember, but a moving forward.

So some things to think about regarding critical thinking: admit you don’t know; you have emotional buttons that can be pushed; there is often great complexity in issues; you need to research and verify complex arguments.

Bottom line, critical thinking is key in making any important decision be it personal, local, national, or otherwise.

Creative Thinking:

OK, let’s get this out of the way right off the bat. If you’re thinking creativity is beyond your grasp or interest that it’s only for artists or those “creative types” think again. Consider the following:

The creative sector of the U.S. economy accounts for $1.7 trillion per year, nearly half of all wages and salaries. So if you think creativity equals art and art is simply the candy store of the economic sector, think again. Not that creativity is all about making money, no. But many do have a false understanding of the important role creativity not only plays in our lives economically, but intellectually and spiritually. It is an all encompassing, multi- faceted tool.

Who are these “creative” people in the economic sector? They are artists, designers, writers, analysts, musicians, entrepreneurs, inventors, scientists, engineers, and so on.

What type of mind set is required to be “creative”? Open minded, flexible, forward-looking, innovative, tolerant, experimental, hopeful, all that one needs to create.

Let’s take a look at the field of science as an example. Specifically, let’s look at physicists or those attempting to come up with a theory that ties quantum with relativity to discover the mind of God or why we are here, where we came from, and where we are going. For it is this theory, or string theory, when found will allegedly, according to some scientists, tie the two aforementioned theories together and we will, according to Stephen Hawking, discover the mind of God.

Now in order to work with this theory one certainly needs all the attributes mentioned above and more. Patience certainly needs to be involved as well, for according to scientist there are so many possible outcomes or answers that the theory is not even right. Huh? Well, that’s where an open, flexible, forward-looking, innovative, tolerant, hopeful mind comes into play. You can see the merit of all these characteristics alone or existing outside creativity. In order to be successful in career and in life one needs these attributes, so it’s no accident that they are so valuable and of such great merit to our emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and financial well being.

A point of practical note is that many employers complain that new hires often lack a creative ability to use the right-side of the brain to problem solve solo or in teams. This supports the point I made earlier about most high school and college grads lacking critical, creative, intuitive thinking skills, those skills that are little paid attention to by educators.

But how exactly does one go about being creative?

Practice, of course. You have to get back to being a child, those kids who say the craziest things. In the 40s, 50s and 60s the show, Art Linkletter’s House Party ran a segment called Kids Say the Darndest Things. Bill Cosby revived a version of the show in the 90s. You can see its popularity. But why?

Well, kids are cute, of course. But they are funny and damn creative. Once while talking to a friend of mine, her five-year-old daughter out of the blue asked, “Mom, when I die, will I dream of dinosaurs?” We all have the ability to think creatively to think as a child, but we have to practice being open enough and feeling safe enough to make odd connections to be flexible, tolerant and open minded. It is here and only here where one can create. And in this day and age of the consultant, the entrepreneur, the recommendation age, according to Glen Dietzel, one more than ever needs to create and be creative. With the economy being so turbulent just relying on a single source of income or job is suicide. Now more than ever one needs to branch out to secure multiple sources of income so that when one stream dries up in these turbulent time there are others to replace them. And it is here where creative, critical, intuitive thinking is vital to one’s survival.

Intuitive Thinking:

This is knowledge or belief obtained neither by reason nor perception, creativity’s cousin. It is based in instinct, a gut feeling and not one based in thorough, in depth analysis and research. It is a hunch or unjustified belief. But according to many it is one of the most important skills to the successful in any venture.

Consider the following, Dr. Mohammed Abdulla El-Erian, CEO and co-CIO of PIMCO, the world’s largest bond investor over US$1 trillion in assets, speaks to the importance of intuition. In his book, When Markets Collides, he mentions that while training as a stock broker, he was working with a very talented young man. As far as his ability is concerned, he was certainly book smart; however, according to El-Erian he was exceptional because of his intuitive insights. El Erian goes on to speak of the great importance of this acquired skill in analyzing the stock market that it is a skill the best master.

Enough from me, let’s cut to the chase by hearing what others have to say about the importance of intuition:

“All perceiving is also thinking all reasoning is also intuition, all observation is also invention” Rudolf Arnheim

“An absolute can only be given in an intuition, while all the rest has to do with analysis” Henri Bergson

“Cease trying to work everything out with your minds. It will get you nowhere. Live by intuition and inspiration and let your whole life be Revelation” Eileen Caddy

“Good design begins with honesty, asks tough questions, comes from collaboration and from trusting your intuition” Freeman Thomas

“Intuition becomes increasingly valuable in the new information society precisely because there is so much data” John Naisbitt

“All human knowledge thus begins with intuitions, proceeds thence to concepts, and ends with ideas” Immanuel Kant

“Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level” Joyce Brothers

“If the single man plant himself indomitably on his instincts, and there abide, the huge world will come round to him” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“For whereas the mind works in possibilities, the intuitions work in actualities, and what you intuitively desire, that is possible to you. Whereas what you mentally or “consciously” desire is nine times out of ten impossible; hitch your wagon to a star, or you will just stay where you are” D H Lawrence

“Knowledge has three degrees-opinion, science, illumination. The means or instrument of the first is sense; of the second, dialectic; of the third, intuition” Plontinus

“The only real valuable thing is intuition” Albert Einstein

And on Mr. Einstein’s note I end.

So putting it all together, you can’t have one without the other: critical, creative, and intuitive thinking. Creative thinking is about coming up with possibilities. Critical thinking sets the mind to discipline and accuracy. And then when our efforts are exhausted and infinite ignorance takes precedence, it is our invaluable friend intuition, the “only real valuable thing” that makes things absolute.

Develop it. Trust in it. With work, discipline, and faith it will not lead you astray. My rational mind has failed me, but the trumping power of intuition never does. Rely on it for its vision is absolute. But trust not, faith not, it will run from you as quickly as the wild wind.

Here’s to your success.

Self Improvement Tip: Be Bigger Than Your Problems: If You’re Offended, it’s Mostly Your Fault

May 21, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

I once asked my students what they would do if someone said that they were stupid. Most said they would be outraged, some said they would take the matter into their own hands, literally. A few said that they would do nothing. I asked why. Some said they didn’t want a confrontation that it wasn’t worth it. One student out of thirty said that she wouldn’t get upset at all. I asked her why. She said, “Well, that’s obvious. It’s just not true.”

And therein lies the strength of the power of self-control. In this day-n-age of express-yourself-no-fear-me-firtism, it is difficult if not impossible to get this concept over to people of such a mindset. But self-control is at the root of the establishment of this country. Even in our anthem “America the Beautiful” we here these prophetic words:

America! America!
God mend thine ev’ry flaw,
Confirm thy soul in self-control,
Thy liberty in law.

But we have not maintained this ideal and it has hurt us as a nation and individually. It is something that has been spoken to again and again over the decades since establishment. Here’s a current message from the pastoral staff at Westminster Presbyterian Church in Medford Oregon that speaks to this verse:

“Confirm thy soul’ That is to say: ‘Establish your character, fortify it, equip it, affirm it, give it staying power and do that by exercising the discipline of self-control.’ It seems to me that if ever the soul of America needed the confirming, bracing power of self-control, this is certainly one of those times.”

“Look around. This society generally doesn’t appear at all hesitant to throw off all sorts of restraints and just “let it happen” (whatever “it” might be). The need for self-control is becoming increasingly evident. (And that’s true for Christians as well as non-Christians).”

Because of this lack of self-control, even our courts have been affected by it in setting precedents that enable the uncontrolled. In one case, a 79-year-old woman burned herself with coffee that was bought at McDonalds and was awarded $640,000. Applying the principles of comparative negligence, the jury found that McDonald’s was 80% responsible for the incident and the woman was 20% at fault. Though there was a warning on the coffee cup, the jury decided that the warning was neither large enough nor sufficient [emphasis added]. In looking at the statement emphasized, one can see by this precedent where our country is headed. Most would know or be accountable or responsible enough to know that the coffee was hot whether it was 190 degrees (the actual temperature) or 140 degrees (the proposed temperature) and could cause serious pain if not serious burning.

Never before have cases of a similar nature been heard in such great numbers. Now, because of a systemic lack of accountability stemming from a lack of self-control or that which requires one to be “exercising the discipline” thereof, we have more and more become a nation of finger pointers, and those fingers very rarely if ever point backwards.

In the field of self-improvement or self-help, one often hears of overcoming weaknesses and shortcomings. Offense is a big one. Certainly we can all become offended. But the point here is that if you are too easily offended, you will spend a great majority of your time heading nowhere or, worse yet, going backwards as you spin your wheels in anger, resentment, revenge, and spite for those who have done you wrong.

There are different ways in which one may be attacked. Someone could slander or liable your good name, but if your name is good, what’s to worry? Time and time and time again, we find those who speak the loudest about the ills of others eventually shoot themselves down. I can think of two well-known performers whose act was built on attacking the character of others: Dice Clay and Joan Rivers. Their popularity was short lived. This mindset is not healthy to the individual purporting it or to those on the receiving end. It creates much more harm than good in any situation.

I can tell you of several personal experiences where people who desired to besmirch my name were not able to do so only to have it backfire because the people involved knew me or found out who was actually culpable.

If you want to do something with your life, if you want greater self confidence, less anxiety, and greater spirituality, if you want to do good for yourself and others, if you want to move ahead you need to solidify your character to build self confidence and self esteem by not letting others take cheap shots to take you down, waste your time or hold you back from growth and the opportunity to help not only yourself but others to a greater and greater degree as you overcome weaknesses. If you work on yourself, helping yourself to be good, to do good, to help others, to come to the aid of others, to lift and support others, you will create such a solid footing for yourself that those who take shots will not be able to take you down.

“I am rubber, you are glue. Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you.”

It may appear childish, but this motivational phrase actually works well at helping the child build self confidence to know that the source of the bad is not in her and that she is good, but most importantly, that the good in her will shine on to aid her in overcoming challenges or the negative and bad that will stick and stain and drain her of life if she believes in the insult, the lie coming her way. This is certainly not where any of us desire to be: young to old.

In order to not be offended, the majority of the work has to be done on your part. You certainly have to build yourself up in the manor suggested above, but it also takes a concerted personal mental effort to overcome the habit of emotionally attacking the offender as well. We have to think before we act. Emotions are not thoughts, they are habits put in place by years of poor or inadequate thinking / reasoning or even its complete lack. This poor reasoning must be undone by good, healthy productive reasoning, for in most cases if not all these bad habits will persist until we consciously intervene.

We can also seek the help of others by informing family and friends of our new mindset. By doing so, we not only bring them to our aid in overcoming bad habits but we help them to overcome them as well.

May you seek the good, the productive, the positive in all that you do in seeking greater self improvement, personal development and self worth. We are not here seeking perfection, nor should anyone believe that we can go throughout life without being offended, for we all have our weak moments, even the strongest. But we must desire to not find offense, to have the negative bounce off us the majority of time; therefore, we can only get stronger for ourselves and, even more importantly, for the many brothers and sisters who need lifting and strengthening. By doing all that is suggested here, you will gain confidence and improvement through these simple self-help techniques.

Personal growth and development are ongoing and never-ending. Until you’ve perfected yourself, you need to grow. Overcoming the self by making the self bigger than your problem or offender will motivate you, and through this motivation, this self improvement, this overcoming, you will gain greater and greater personal strength and desire to reach out to others to do the same for them. Strength breeding strength breeding strength breeding strength. May the line never be broken.

Time Management and Achievement: How to Write Four Books in Two Years

May 20, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

How did I write 4 books in 2 years?

The power of focus, time management, and a passion for what I’m doing along with a specific goal and vision.

Before I tell you how I did it, let’s get some ideas from other successful time managers to see how to best manage one’s time. A critical component to anyone’s success.

People often spend their time in one of three ways or some combination thereof: their schedule, other people’s schedule, no schedule. Unfortunately, most spend their lives working on no schedule or other people’s schedules. Big mistake.

But if you want to accomplish, and I’m not talking about mere I’d-love-to-play-the-piano-but-not-really-because-I’ll-never-make-the-necessary-sacrifices lip service, but true commitment to accomplishment, it takes discipline, focus and practical applications.

What does that specifically mean? I seldom will merely talk theory, but rather practical application. The collective mind-scape is littered with discarded books of academic theory written by those genius abstract theorists floating above the masses literally and figuratively on their Island of Laputa. Knowledge is great but we need practical, down-to-earth, I can really get things done with this stuff skills and attitude.

Let’s get to the specifics.

Dan Kennedy, tops in his field in coaching and prodding others to market successful, knows how to manage his time. If everyone did what he did, we’d all be uber-successful. He generally works by himself, having one employee who telecommutes several states away. But people are often amazed by how much he gets done. How does he do it?

First of all, he doesn’t have a computer–Internet, email–or a cell phone. Most reading that gulped like I just took away their remote for a week or canceled their Netflix membership; but yes, moderns, it can be done.

Why does he do it? Less distraction. He believes that the easier it is to communicate the more likely people will send a communication when they have something on their mind, ending up sending several messages a day. Kennedy’s belief is that the harder it is to communicate the more likelihood there is that people won’t communicate as frequently.

Kennedy actually has people communicate via fax or mail, forcing people to put more messages in fewer transmissions. Instead of getting a dozen calls or emails a day, he gets one fax or piece of mail with all the messages / questions / concerns listed rather than broken up randomly in several disjointed emails or calls.

Another thing he does is schedule his phone time for just a couple of hours each month with people, set with specific beginning and end times with the end time strictly adhered to.

Ultimately, when he’s working he’s doing just that, working. Go into any office you will see so much time wasted on idle chat, distraction, delay, and general downtime. One of the biggest wastes of any company is time loss. To achieve, you must be able to do what it takes to manage your time.

But what if you aren’t motivated? What if you just can’t get going, get to work? What do you do?

Well, if this happens often, quite your job or fire yourself and do what you’re passionate about, for the most successful often don’t view what they’re doing as work. It’s usually the burned out desk jockey who’s forced himself to believe that he’s’ stuck with his “lame job” and that’s that. Unfortunately, if you aren’t doing something that keeps you awake at night because you just can’t wait to get to it, then not only do I feel sorry for you, but you’re living someone’s lie. Either you or someone else has convinced you that it’s OK to do what’s not the greatest thing on earth, according to your description.

Why is this important in regards to time management? I think you know the answer to that.

But the point I brought up is pivotal to your focus, for if you don’t have a deep passion for what you do, then the chance of achievement, even with the greatest application of time management techniques, will be minimal. If you want to maximize these time saving devices, then first and foremost find what you love to do.

To continue with our examples, a man by the name of Isaac Asimov who was a scientist and writer wrote some 500 books in his lifetime. Yes, 500 books. 500 books over roughly a 50 year span. How did he get this done? Well, according to his suggestions to writers, in a book co-written with his wife, he tells writers to “get rid of distractions: junk mail, television, and “if it’s a nice day outside, well, just close the blinds and get to work.”

Here’s someone who truly knew the gift of industry.

But you’re probably saying to yourself, gee I don’t want to be sequestered away all day writing books that would drive me mad. Of course it would, but if you find that which you’re passionate about, that which you love to do, you will want to do that thing more than anything else, thus enabling your change for not only success but greater success, greater than you’ve probably even imagined.

Finally, how did I write 4 books in 2 years? Yes, certainly, the power of focus, but let’s get into specifics.

When I was writing, sometimes I was writing at home, sometimes I was writing at a college where I taught, but there were always distractions. But so seldom did I give into them that I was able to write, write quickly, and write a lot.

My wife tells me that at times she’ll be talking to me and she swears my brain has transported out of the room leaving my body behind. You need that level of focus and concentration to succeed in this world. That is if you want to reap the joys and benefits of doing so.

But back to practical techniques. When I sit down to write, I always know what I’m going to write, and I generally know how much copy I need to generate before I call it quits. So if the phone rings, a knock comes at the door, a colleague walks into the room and starts shooting the breeze with someone else, what do I do? That’s right, I keep writing. Very seldom if ever do I get out of work mode until I’ve accomplished what I’ve needed to.

Oh, another point of note. While I was writing those 4 books I was also generating dozens of pages of copy for my web page that consisted of time-consuming methods, techniques, survey questions, and a proprietary system of considerable complexity.

How did it get done?

Love of work: dedication, passion, commitment
Elimination of distractions
Objective that consists of specific quantities
Known start and stop times and sticking to them
Ignoring of distractions if they do arise
Having goals: monthly, weekly, daily, hourly
And a clear vision of where I am, where I’m going, and when I’ll get there

Here’s to getting things done. Good luck.

Finding the Right Career for You: The Solution is Most Likely Not What You Expected

May 19, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

How have you gone about finding the right career? Have you talked to a high school counselor? Maybe you’ve gone to a college, even, and sought counseling there. Or maybe you’ve consulted family, friends, or you’ve decided on the proper career. If you’ve done any or all of the above, just how confident are you in your decision. If you’re like most, not too confident.

But what’s interesting here is that so many leave it up to chance or a whim as to what they’ll do with the rest of their life to not only bring in the money to survive but to select a career that will bring fulfillment. And it’s not entirely the fault of the individual. There are few and far between systems that are objective, thorough and well thought out enough to help people in the long run.

So how can you make a decision that you will know is the right one beyond a shadow of a doubt?

Well, the answer has to come from the source, doesn’t it? It needs to come from within. However, the problem is that the majority of people don’t know how to do this or feel it’s not possible so they go to supposed “experts” to find the answer. But what’s this like? Well, in most cases, you sit there and listen as a counselor or therapist dispenses the “correct knowledge.” Then, you take it in, go home and apply their “decision” with little or insufficient self-reflection. Or, worse yet, you take a test that tells you what you should be doing for the rest of your life. If you’re comfortable with a piece of paper telling you what to do in this regards, so be it. However, most are not if they ponder thruthfully over a long enough period of time.

So, what’s a poor person trying to discover how to choose a career or one who’s working hard at finding the right career supposed to do?

You go to someone who knows how to work the answers out of you.

What’s that you say? Yes, there’s no job personality test or employment personality test that can get to the answers like a real human being can. But this person, or coach, is not there to “tell” but rather to “listen.” The career coach, success coach, or life coach is one who works as an equal in a co-active environment using open-ended questions (those that do not lead or judge in any way) to pull from the client deep ceded answers that may have been lying dormant for years if not decades.

It is the coach’s responsibility to listen intuitively to the answers given not to judge or even necessarily to guide but to determine where to go next as the client discovers for himself / herself answers that appear quite familiar but have lied dormant for many a year.Or they have been buried by doubt or need to appease those who tell them that their dreams and desires are not “sufficient.”

For example, a former student of mine (I also teach composition / writing) approached me one day and said, “You know, when I try to write this assignment, I can’t do it with an objective voice. For some reason, my writing always comes out subjective or personal. Why’s that?” I said, “Well, either you’ve got a problem you want to solve or you’re a writer.” She looked up in amazement saying, “You know, that’s always been my first love, writing. But I’ve put it on the back burner and I think I’ve suffered because of it.” We talked a little bit more and she soon came to the conclusion for herself that she better get back to writing or the consequences may get worse.

This is the key. The answers lie within. No one’s going to tell you better than you what you need to do with your life. However, it’s more complex than that. It takes some focused effort and assistance to pull out the answers. You need to go into detail the various areas of your life (career, family, health, finances, etc.) and discover what’s important to you and then match this with your specific talents, abilities, desires, and gifts.

But the work is not done. Once you discover what it is that you want to do with your life, that which is going to set your life on fire, then you need to develop a plan and stick to it. And in the process you will have to overcome character flaws that we all have that can sabotage a career quicker than you can say “success” while at the same time learning critical success principles that will help you pull it all together.

If you’re ready and are serious about making the most of your life and finding that path that is truly you, one that you can get excited to wake up to every morning, then you owe it to yourself to set sail on that path today.

Here’s to your success.

Time Management: It’s More About Managing Self Than Time

May 17, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

OK, you’ve got your work day all scheduled out to the last minute. You’ve gotten rid of distractions. Now it’s just matter of getting to work and getting it done. Right?

If you said yes, think again.

“Plans are only good intentions unless they immediately degenerate into hard work” Peter Drucker, management expert

“It’s not so much how busy you are, but why you are busy. The bee is praised; the mosquito swatted” Marie O’Conner

You’re starting to get the message, aren’t you?

Yes, above we’re talking about motivation and the why of it all, but there’s even more. So let’s get into it.

Activity is not directly related to accomplishment. You’ve seen those people who run around with a lot of energy, like they’re afraid that if they slow down someone will scold them, “Hey! You aren’t working. Get moving!” Work for them simply means activity, usually at very high speed. But sometimes in order to do a job well one needs to slow down, way down.

In teaching critical thinking to students and clients, I often tell them that they need to use their gear box, say five gears. When reading, researching, problem solving, one first must know what to look for-the why. It’s putting questions to the problem at hand. You look for key points expressed in key words and phrases and when you hit them, down shift. It’s not so much about speed but results.

Results count. Just being busy does not directly equate with success. In my college classes, I’ve had students say, “But professor, I’ve worked real hard.” I tell them that effort may be rewarded in school but in the real world it’s results. Have you met the requirements? Beethoven had to work much harder than Mozart to get to a finished product. If success and achievement were merely based on effort there would be a lot of people listening to Beethoven’s incomplete scores to great applause.

But there’s more. You’ve got to manage your thinking, energy, behavior, and attitudes. Let’s deal with the last two.

School is basically about knowledge found in two key intelligences: logic / math and linguistics. But what about attitudes and skills? They often get ignored to the detriment of many students who graduate lacking critically in areas they’ll need in order to optimize success. Here we’re just going to focus on attitude or how to deal with one’s emotions or behavior. It’s been revealed time and again that controlling one’s behavior via proper attitude awareness is the cornerstone of success. Knowledge is a tool, but it fails without the ability to handle emotions during trying times: stress, anger, fear and so on. What’s a tool without being able to wield it with accuracy and strength on a consistent basis?

So you may have had a nice schedule going there, your day, days, weeks planed out in advance, but, as is said, life happens. What about all those days you didn’t get enough sleep? Or all the times you felt uninspired? Or dealing with issues related to spouse, children, friends? Financial issues? Or what about when your day doesn’t go as planned because of delays, technical issues, people not showing up? On and on it goes. Being able to get through these times is what the successful are all about.

Here’s an example to help clarify the point I’m trying to make. 450 men from Somerville, Massachusetts were followed over a 40-year period. Two-thirds had learning deficiencies. One-third were considered deficient in IQ. However, the majority were successful because of their superior EI or emotional intelligence-ability to control the self.

Here’s a more famous, if you will, example. Consider the pressure Abraham Lincoln was under during the Civil War. He was not well liked by many and received a lot of flack, to say the least. Some wanted him not only out of office but dead. So what did he do? This man who was not well versed in war worked sixteen hour days seven days a week studying, under great pressure, anxiety, and little sleep. But he pulled through, didn’t he? He was certainly motivated, no problem there. Maintaining a scheduling was the least of his worries. And even though he did not have a deficient IQ, it was his really his EI that saw him through the difficult times.

Now, you may not be saving a country, but what do you do if, say for instance, you want to write a book because by doing so it will get your business off the ground positioning you as an expert in your field. But you have a family, business to build, and you need time to eat and sleep. Well, here is not only where time management comes into play but self-control, most importantly.

Now, I can drive the point home more deeply by stating that the above it’s not simply some arbitrary, made-up example. It comes from a real life situation. Mine. But I was not only able to write the one book mentioned above, but four books in a little under three years while teaching three college classes, building a business, and running a family of five. Well I don’t run it, the family that is, my wife does, but I need to do my share. So it really comes down to much more than mere time management. Yes, certainly I had the nice schedule and mental acuity but there was more to it. Let me digress for a moment to drive the point home.

According to Donald Trump (even though you might not like him, you can’t deny his success), he advises that to be successful one needs to be focused and work fast. Now, I know I mentioned above that it’s not all about speed, but when speed is needed you’ve got to have it at hand. My wife often marvels at how quick I get things done around the house. How can I get something done in an hour that takes her all day? (her words, here) Truthfully, I hate cleaning the house. There are a thousand other things I’d rather be doing. Like sleeping. But my motivation to do other enjoyable things is just what I need to move and move fast.

But that’s cleaning the house, not my vocation. Regarding vocation, or something that you’d like to make your vocation, if you aren’t motivated, if you don’t burn with passion like a house-on-fire, then your chance of having the energy to work fast and well-focused is not there. My burning passion to write, get my business going, get my message out is a five-alarm fire. Therein you will find not only speed, but razor-sharp focus, and everything else needed to get the job done quickly and efficiently.

So now that you’ve got that schedule in place, attitude adjusted, and you’re motivated, what else is there?

How about your health? Got milk?

OK, actually you may want to avoid milk, for many reasons I won’t go into here. But you do need to take care of your physical being, for sure. You need regular exercise, your vegetables, fruits, vitamins and minerals, sleep and such. Personally, I don’t drink coffee, alcohol, soda, sport drinks, milk (there it is), but I do drink oxidized, high ph water, hit the gym and walk regularly, so forth and so on. I’m not so great on the sleep, but when I need to I catch up. Remember, not enough sleep on a regular basis can kill you. A friend of mine, a former model / actress turned reporter, was told by her doctor that if she didn’t get more sleep during one particularly busy reporting schedule it would eventually kill her. Advice well taken; she’s alive and well to prove it.

It’s also critical to have people who support you, who you can emotionally unwind with: spouse, friends, children, etc. Having such people around are great renew -ers. Find out what recharges your battery. You may have to go on long, quite walks, dance, get away for a while, whatever it takes.

Now I could have made this a standard time management article, but you don’t need me to tell you to invest in a planner, set intermediate dates, check for schedule conflicts, schedule flextime, group items together for better execution, shift priorities, and so on. No, you can get that 20%. I’ll deal with the 80% that matters.

Here’s to your well managed, impassioned, fast moving success.

Tapping into Your Own, Unique Self-Help Guru: How to Make the Universe Work for You

May 14, 2010 | Author: Jeffrey

Or How to Find the Airport when You’re Lost and Don’t Have Time to Stop and Ask for Directions

One day, I was rushing to get my wife to the airport on time. Since it was an international flight, the general rule-according to my wife-is to get there three hours before the flight’s scheduled departure time. As I drove past the airport exit, we were about two hours from takeoff.

As an aside, I would like to mention that the last three times I had been to the airport I missed the exit. I had never done this the dozens of times I had driven there previously. Maybe there are some questions I have to ask myself to explore this subconscious mishap. It’s not conscious, that’s for sure. Men don’t make driving mistakes or get lost . . . at least consciously. Excuse me, my wife is kicking my shins.

Anyway, I am not a worrier, so I didn’t panic. And I’m OK with arriving at the airport one hour before domestic flights, so I was OK with two hours before an international flight. My wife? A different story. She was squirming in her seat like her pants were on fire . . . with no extinguisher in sight.

I got off the next exit and turned right to circle back towards the airport. I knew that with my wife panicking, it probably would be better if I could just find the airport without taking up any additional time. I see the men smiling. Yes, I would do what any man would: find it on his own.

I was somewhat familiar with the area but not intimately so-just a touch of familiarity, at best. Regardless, with my wife doing her best flopping-fish impersonation, was I going to stop and ask for directions? Like I said, I’m a guy. But I do not ask for directions because of pride but because it’s more of a challenge to find where I’m going by myself. I see all the men nodding their heads (ladies, stop tisk-tisking and lend some support). What type of life-lesson can you get from stopping to ask for directions, anyway? By doing so, can you learn how to overcome fear? (See wife’s raised fist in passenger seat) How to hone your primitive tracking skills? Tap into that call-of-the-wild need to be true to thine own self-the essence of the priceless male / animal instinct that we’ve all lost? OK. I’m riffing here . . . but you get the point. That is a topic for another session.

Regardless, this wasn’t why I wasn’t stopping for directions. By this time I was able to use my inner radar, my personal GPS. (More on this later) I approached a stoplight and my inner voice told me to take a left. I did. A mile later on the right was a sign for the airport, the first one I’d seen since going astray. I took the turn and within a few minutes found the airport. We parked across from the terminal that housed the airline we were looking for. At this point, we were down to about one hour before departure.

We took her things out of the trunk, crossed the road that separated the parking structure from the airport terminal and hit the sidewalk. Looking left and right we found no sign posted with the name of the airline we were looking for, so my wife took off and I simply followed. At this point, my inner GPS spoke up: “Wrong. Go back.” I told my wife to go the other way. She must have felt something because she didn’t argue. She can usually tell when I’m on the right track. Within a few minutes, there was the name of the airline we were looking for on a sign above the sidewalk.

We went through the doors and began to walk to our left. I saw an elevator and knew we had to take it to the second floor. When the doors opened, I knew we had to go to the right. Within minutes we saw the airline. My wife checked in and made her flight on time.

Now I am not saying that this is Crossing Over with Jeff Brown. I don’t even want a TV show. (One of the reasons I got out of comedy-couldn’t see myself being a one-trick pony. But that’s another story.) And I don’t pretend to be a parlor act. The reason I mention this story is we, all of us, can enhance our inner intuitive voice, our sixth sense, our connection with the divine with practice and patience. This part of us is underdeveloped, a part that has been overlooked to a great degree in this overly material and busy, fast passed world. And the name of it is the spiritual. Yes, of the non John Edwards variety (No cold reading here). What is counseled here is just a more practiced attempt to re-familiarize ourselves with the intuitive, the sixth sense, the divine, if you will.

Now I know what you’re asking: why is this important to me? (You’re so selfish. But I’ll overlook it. I do it for me. I can do it for you). Why is it essential to tap into this intuitive voice? (From here on in, I’ll refer to this phenomenon as the intuitive.) But to answer this question, first we must ask, what is at the core of this intuitive voice? What are its characteristics? And, ultimately, how can it help you? Just like learning how a radio works, one must first pull it apart, label its parts, know how they work and interact, and then put it back together; it would be beneficial to take apart the intuitive, to explore it, look at it from a few more angles.

Do you remember when you were a child? Way back. Think five or six years old. We’ll go with this age because many don’t remember back further. Do you remember sitting around for hours with little other than your imagination and a few props: toys, a cardboard box, a vacuum, a mop. Now your mind may not have been too developed at this point, so it actually took little to entertain you (kind of like now with the remote and the TV; however, the worry and presence of those bills keep us from indulging). But here I’m more interested in your creative mind, your ability to believe in the impossible way back then. You weren’t hampered by facts or science, or a basic understanding of reality, or hampered by a common belief that it’s “the way it is,” as in “Well, that’s just the way it is.” (A statement that needs to be deleted permanently from the minds of all humans who desire hope through alternative possibilities.)

Now, let’s get back to the kid in all of us, shall we? To illustrate my point about how young minds are abounding with exiting possibilities, remember when every experience was full of excitement? Even going on a picnic to The Devil’s Hop Yard with your friend and his mom was an adventure. Remember those un-jaded days? Let me give you an example of how freely your mind worked then.

I was visiting a friend one day. At the time, her daughter was about eight years old. While talking to my friend, her daughter, out of thin air, pulled down the question, “Mommy? When I die, will I dream of dinosaurs?” Do you see the brilliance in this statement? If it were you or me, our minds cramped by years of those telling us what we can and can not do (parents, teachers, snotty schoolmates, snotty bosses), this hindering, damaging our creative voice to, sadly, become quieter and quieter. To the point where it’s like a church mouse asking the priest to open the main door that outweighs him ten-thousand to one because he’s forgotten he can dig holes through walls. But the priest doesn’t speak mouse, so he’s stuck inside forever, without hope, without food, without friends or family. They’re all on the other side of the door waiting, not able to tell him that he’s just got to believe and then he’ll remember what he had forgotten so long ago.

Is this you? Is your day dull? Null and void of excitement? Interest? Intrigue? Instinct? Is stimulation something that comes only when you’re late for work? And in your effort to save some time, you’ve cut off oncoming traffic and almost take an eighteen-wheeler head on? Shame on you. That’s no way to get your kicks. Think of the kids, your spouse, your grandchildren, grandchildren to be, and find that excitement again through safer means, your imagination, your creative / intuitive voice. This is where the greatest, safest stimulation, and, interestingly enough, self-worth comes from (more on this later in the article). But the intuitive, the creative is more than just entertainment, even though that’s a good place to start because one can’t discover much about the self half asleep at the wheel.

I can tell you this, boldly, without hesitation or doubt, that if you don’t go back and find or re-find that voice-work on it, with it-then you will continue to lack fulfillment, regardless of how happy or content you may think you are. There are those who have become super successful in their field and all the incumbent rewards: money, freedom, prestige, and so on. However, there are many with great gobs of money who are not much different from those without. Ask Robin Leach. According to him, the common denominators to his guests were not only rich and famous but miserable. Let’s take a look at what an expert has to say on the subject. According to David Myers, PhD, professor of Hope College, Holland, Mich.:

“Even very rich people–the Forbes’ 100 wealthiest Americans surveyed by University of Illinois psychologist Ed Diener–are only slightly happier than average.⁽³⁾ With net worths all exceeding $100 million, providing ample money to buy things they don’t need and hardly care about, 4 in 5 of the 49 people responding to the survey agreed that “Money can increase OR decrease happiness, depending on how it is used.” And some were indeed unhappy. However, one fabulously wealthy man said he could never remember being happy. One woman reported that money could not undo misery caused by her children’s problems. Examples of the wretched wealthy are not hard to come by: Howard Hughes, Christina Onassis, J.Paul Getty” (David Myers, PhD, psychology, Hope College, Holland, Mich.).

Of course I don’t mean to poo-poo the rich, for they’ve made many of us happy with lots of nice products and monies that feed our growing economy. But the bottom line here is that it’s not about the amount of money you have but what’s in your head.

Let’s explore this point a little deeper.

Remember that we are trying to discover what is at the core of the intuitive voice so that we can better understand how vital it is to our basic existence. And yes, this intuitive voice, a cousin of play, is essential to adults. Therapists may tell you that it’s important for adults to play to lessen stress, to enable one to find what it is that they want to do with their lives-finding vocation through avocation. But there is a lot more to it than this simple, safe pop-psychology states. This creativity, this play (the child relating to the eternal spirit) is at the core of your temporal and eternal health. More on this later in this article. Let’s move on.

Being childlike is essential to the intuitive, the creative voice. So to understand this we have to ask, what is it that which we admire about children? Why are there so many advocates of children? You can check out celebrity causes and find that eighty, ninety percent support children’s causes. For example, love her or not, Angelina Jolie, interestingly, knew shortly after seeing the children that she eventually adopted that she would bring them home with her. She was touched by their need, their plight, and innocence. And it is this precious innocence that we desire to protect in children that we need to protect in the child within all of us. But why? Why is this important?

The intuitive / creative voice is tied into the child. There is great power in the child or child-like individual. Consider that in fantasy, these stories often use children or child-like protagonists who overcome the antagonist or evil without the use of great strength, great intelligence, power, wealth, connections. They overcome all the odds through what? Their purity of heart. Look at Frodo in Lord of the Rings, or the children, the Pevensies, in the Chronicles of Narnia. It is the children’s innocence and goodness or purity of heat that enables them to tap into the benevolent power that aids them in overcoming the witch to reign benevolently for years as kings and queens. It is only through being pure of heart that Frodo is able to overcome evil. It is only through purity of heart that the children are able to gain or acquire more power and overcome the evil. Or we can look at Neo in the Matrix, a young man yet childlike-humble and teachable. Only by developing his power through a desire to reach out and aid those in dire need does he overcome the machines and set his people free. And the key word here is develop. We all have the intuitive / creative childlike ability in us, but for most, it needs to not only be called up but practiced over and over to strengthen and protect the possessor-YOU. We all must practice using our imagination, like children, to strengthen our intuitive / creative voice. But how do we know this? Let me break it down. Bear with me. This will all come together.

This country was founded on freedom, the freedom of all men and women, ideally, regardless of race, color, creed, to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Notice that the Declaration of Independence doesn’t say happiness, as in it being merely handed to you (you have to work for it), but its pursuit. And the key word here is independence, for if we are not given the platform, the ability to work independently, if we are restricted in any way against our will, we will not be in the best situation or be able to maximize our potential to create. Einstein said that without creativity knowledge (or anything) would not exist. All that you see around you (yes, even you) began as a thought. And it is essential that we free our minds from that which inhibits restriction of thought. That’s why it is essential that we stay away from situations that destroy our creative playground (our mind) and hinder us from reaching our potential, emotionally, socially, politically, intellectually, spiritually, and financially. In this country we have the best opportunity to play feely, to allow the child within the opportunity and room to express itself-an essential element to your growth and a great blessing indeed. Consider that beyond the basic needs of physical safety, food, and shelter is the need to be free. If we are not free then we can not pursue our happiness, and if we don’t free the child within we can not reach our true potential. Now let’s take a specific look at what more we can do to free the intuitive / creative voice to maximize its potential.

One thing we need is time. If we don’t first and foremost set aside time, we will never have the opportunity to benefit from the intuitive / creative voice. This is easier said than done and something that requires greater development, which will be done later in this article. Next, one needs a clear pathway for the intuitive / creative mind to move down. This is done by getting rid of negative thought, once again, more difficult to do than say, especially considering that eighty percent of our thoughts are negative, thoughts about ourselves or others. It is an uphill battle; however, one that can and needs to be won. What are the negative thoughts specifically? Remember, that in order to be successful, you need to be very specific in your goals. Some negative thoughts or acts to avoid are anger, gossip, contempt, disrespect, sarcasm, lying, cheating, stealing, procrastinating, sloth, coveting (wanting that which is not yours or currently lack the resources or ability to get), and so on.

Sound like the commandments, don’t they? Now most may feel that they are a restriction, but if followed they are actually the earmarks to great freedoms. Besides, does anyone like someone who is a liar, cheat, thief, murderer, who is disrespectful to parents? And so on. If you follow the above advice, negating the negatives and accentuate the positives (there’s a song there somewhere) then you can tap into the abundant blessings of the universe. But the universe is a demanding task master. There are none who become and stay successful who don’t rid themselves of a majority of these characteristics and emotions. And it only makes sense because you need to be of a positive mindset, disciplined, and focused to excel and exceed many common human failings.

So once you’ve freed up some time and you’ve freed up your mind, gotten away from the majority of the negative, you must sit down and play, be creative. Now don’t think that you can’t do it. When we were younger, we were all great players. What has happened is that you’ve gotten out of practice. And if you play enough, you will eventually tap into the intuitive / creative voice, that which the universe loves, for once you do, once you trust in it, have faith in its power, amazing things will begin to occur. But you must practice, practice, practice, and persist.

Unfortunately, the universe is a difficult task master and makes you earn a lot that you desire to achieve. And this is as it should be, for what do we gain of importance from getting that which we want without effort. It may feel good to get something for free-something for nothing-but if this persists, you will end up working harder and harder at feeling good about yourself through your haze of lay about and folly. And even though you may obtain a modicum of success, the universe shortly stops rewarding those who sit back without effort for too long. Those who are wealthy know this, and even though they may have money for a dozen life times, not working is not an option.
Consider George Forman of the famous George Forman Lean Mean Fat Reducing Grilling Machine. At one time, he was a famous, wealthy boxer. Most of you know this. However, most don’t know why he works like a dog, even though he’s made hundreds of millions of dollars. After losing his fortune from boxing (about one third of what he has made on his grill), he made a pact with God that if he made well selling grills he would never stop working. This is a common characteristic of the wealthy. There are many a millionaire who does not rest on his or her laurels. Why? Maybe they like what they do, sure. But the biggie is that they know how the universe works, and if you take off too much time to simply play, you may play away all your money. Careful Charles Barkley, Vegas is the underbelly of that kind part of the universe lurking, looking to take your fortunes. But let’s get back to a more grounded subject. The matter at hand.

As you continue to use and trust in the intuitive / creative voice it will begin to give you insights, wisdom you never knew or forgotten you had. You will receive solutions to problems (school, family, career) that you weren’t able to obtain before. And you will begin to heal or feel better, feel the cathartic healing that comes with the intuitive voice. And don’t forget that it is not all about being an adult, either. Don’t be afraid to write a song, a story, paint, sing, dance, wherever you desire to play, for here you will find great rewards too, insights that only the unencumbered childlike mind can come up with. Why do you think so many of the great geniuses have a great sense of humor? They know the source of their creative genius, the child inside. Nurture it and watch it and your life flower and grow.

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